[anonymous, handwriting disguised]

[forgot-it-all.livejournal.com]

...I have a question for people here, but it's kind of embarrassing so I'm doing this anonymously. If any of you make fun of me, so help me I'll beat you with a rock. Um...how do you know if you like someone and it's not just that, you know, you like being around them? Normally I don't talk about this stuff, but it's getting annoying having to think about them all the time and I just want this figured out now before I lose more sleep over it.

Any help or advice would be appreciated.

Comments

[jei.livejournal.com]

Kiss 'em and see if you get wood.

Or whatever it is that women get when they're turned on, I guess.

[k4t4str0ph4l.livejournal.com]

You're so amusing when your bloodlust is sated. Clearly we need to find you people to massacre more often.

[jei.livejournal.com]

No disagreement here. 'Cept maybe on the 'amusing' part.

[anonymous]

[forgot-it-all.livejournal.com]

And if you kiss them, don't get turned on, but still like kissing them?

Re: [anonymous]

[jei.livejournal.com]

Fuck if I know. Either your hormones haven't come in yet, or you've got issues. Either way, we're way out of my area of knowledge there.

[boot-i-licious.livejournal.com]

I'll admit, it's a really difficult question. I...haven't really experienced it myself.

Still, I imagine if you can't think of anything but them, if you want to be around them, if you want them as part of your life...if you can imagine yourself growing old with them.

Then I imagine it's probably love and not just loving being around them.

I'm sorry. I hope that helps!

[anonymous]

[forgot-it-all.livejournal.com]

Nn...that does help somewhat. Thanks.

Re: [anonymous]

[boot-i-licious.livejournal.com]

You're welcome! My name is Rinali, if you ever need to talk, just let me know.

:)

[blacksustenance.livejournal.com]

You know what would fix all those uncomfortable feelings? A good fuck; try it sometime.

[anonymous]

[forgot-it-all.livejournal.com]

NOT AN OPTION.

I don't-- wh-- What?

Re: [anonymous]

[blacksustenance.livejournal.com]

Just saying it might solve your little problem.

[son-ofkrypton.livejournal.com]

It sounds like you really like this person if you can't stop thinking about them. Maybe you should try talking to them and see if they feel the same.

- Clark

[anonymous]

[forgot-it-all.livejournal.com]

I can't tell if I think about them all the time because I like them or if it's because they annoy the hell out of me with how crytpic and confusing they are. They said they loved me when we first met, but that's because someone else told them to say that and not because they really meant it. Can you like someone because someone else ordered you to do it?

Re: [anonymous]

[son-ofkrypton.livejournal.com]

I don't know. I don't think you can just love someone because you're told to, in my opinion. It's possible to like someone at first sight, I think, but not because someone else told you to. But even if someone told you to and it wasn't true at first, it could become true later. Sorry if I'm not making any sense, this kinda thing's complicated.

[anonymous!]

[norainu]

You just do.

Or think about how you feel when they're gone. Sometimes if you're dumb, that's what it take to figure it out.

Re: [anonymous!]

[forgot-it-all.livejournal.com]

...Great. So how did you know if it happened to you? That's what I can't figure out!

And I don't know how I feel when they're gone. I get annoyed because they said they'd never leave, but-- Gah, this is so confusing!

[anonymous!, handwriting SO disguised]

[norainu]

I knew before the person left, because I knew that I would do anything for their sake, without hesitation.

And then after forty years, I knew that without this person, I am nothing.

That's how I knew, how I know. I can't say it's the same for everyone else.

[anon-anon-anon]

[rope-victim.livejournal.com]

Well, first you should ask yourself if you feel a little strange when you're around them. Like you're heart is beating too quickly, or if you find yourself doing things you wouldn't normally (acting out of turn, or fighting with the person often?).

Have you thought about kissing this person before? Do you feel comfortable when you're near them? Do you worry about their safety? Are you excited when you see them?

This is the kind of thing you have to ask yourself about.

Re: [anon-anon-anon]

[forgot-it-all.livejournal.com]

...They kiss me sometimes and I've started to not mind it as much, but I don't always feel comfortable around them. Sometimes they do things that I don't really understand and it just makes everything...confusing. Whenever they're here I want them to go away and when they're gone, I want them to come back. It's so stupid.

[anon-anon-anon]

[rope-victim.livejournal.com]

It sounds like you are at least on the road to liking someone. But, be careful. If you try to press things, they might not like you the way you like them.

Even if you are kissing sometimes. This is an embarrassing subject to talk about.

[full-score.livejournal.com]

It sounds like a really complicated situation. I'd probably be able to give more specific advice if I knew more about the situation, but that'd mess up your anonymity, so that's out.

Just take things at your own pace, I guess. If you really like someone, you'll know it by the way you feel when you make them happy, or when they're not around, or when they're in trouble. But don't rush into anything just because someone tells you to. That should be left up to you.

Also, hiding your feelings from people you care about isn't always such a good idea. It makes your own burden heavier, and you might seriously regret it if bad stuff happens and you find you simply don't have the chance to talk about it anymore, even if you wanted to.

And that's my two cents.

- Claude

[anonymous]

[forgot-it-all.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the advice. It makes...sense, yeah.

It's kind of a weird place to be, I guess. Everyone tells me I should talk to my friends about it, but it's kind of hard, you know? I don't want them thinking the wrong things or whatever.

Thanks though. You've helped me.

[full-score.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I understand what you're saying. Sometimes talking to friends about stuff is really tough, especially if you're worried about what they're going to think of you. But if they're really your friends, then they shouldn't judge you or anything like that. It still doesn't make things easier, though, so I definitely see where you're coming from.

But I'm glad I was able to help you at least a little. Good luck with everything!

- Claude

[iamyourflower.livejournal.com]

You may get hurt.


You will get hurt.

[anonymous]

[forgot-it-all.livejournal.com]

What? Why do you say that?