There's a difference between what people say and how these things work. Just like when a woman tells you she doesn't care about your anniversary and it's okay if you just get her something cheap, she knows you work hard and what your salary's like, only to blow up when you bring home the cheap flowers you picked off your neighbor's lawn even if the flowers are fresh and she said she liked them up until the minute she saw the cheap Kleenex you wrapped the stems in instead of doing the smart thing and adding a ribbon or putting them in water.